Why do we rarely hear the phrase “men support men”? Why does it feel almost taboo to talk about male solidarity, while “women support women” is widely celebrated and highly visible? On TikTok, the hashtag #Womensupportwomen has over 118K uses, yet #Mensupportmen barely reaches a few thousand. The difference is huge—and it raises an important question: What’s happening with men?
After digging deeper into this topic, I found several reasons why male support is rarely seen, rarely talked about, and often misunderstood.
1. Many men are raised to be emotionally restricted
From a young age, boys are often told things like:“Don’t cry, be tough,don’t act soft.” Parents usually believe they are preparing their sons for a harsh world, but the result is the opposite: boys grow up with very limited space for emotional expression. Showing vulnerability is seen as weakness, so they learn to hide it. Meanwhile, girls are generally encouraged to express their feelings, seek comfort, or cry when they need to. This early emotional conditioning shapes how men relate to each other as adults.
2. Male friendships discourage emotional connection
In many cultures, male friendships come with strict, unspoken rules. Men are expected to act strong even when they’re struggling. Showing affection—like crying together or giving emotional support—is often mocked as “too soft” or even “gay.”
On the other hand, women freely compliment each other, comfort each other, and openly show love. A woman telling her friend “You look great today, i like your outfit, tell me if u feel unwell, is normal. But if a man says that to another man, he risks being teased. This social stigma limits how men support each other.
3. Society pushes men to compete, not connect
Men are taught to measure their worth through dominance—being the strongest, the toughest, the smartest, the most “alpha.” When competition becomes the culture, solidarity becomes rare. Instead of collaborating, many men feel they must prove themselves all the time, even in front of their closest friends.
4. Men fear looking weak—especially to other men
Research shows men fear judgment from other men more than from women. They stay silent even when they badly need help. They don’t talk, don’t ask, and often carry the burden alone. This silence contributes to rising mental-health issues among men worldwide.
5. Male support does exist—it's just invisible
Men often support each other quietly, helping without asking questions,showing up when needed listening without emotional language but because the support is silent and non-verbal, people rarely notice it. Society expects emotional displays as signs of support—something men are discouraged from doing.
So why is “men support men” so rare? Not because men don’t care.
Another reason why men support men looking a little bit in social media is not because they don’t want to support each other. But because traditional masculinity punishes vulnerability, and emotional connection is treated as a threat to a man’s identity. When the culture teaches men to hide their feelings, it’s no surprise that male support becomes invisible and underrepresented.
1. . They support each other with silent. Like show up without talking too much or being
reliable but since it’s not verbal, it often goes unnoticed because show
emotional as men is taboo so that's why the hastag unpopuler like womensupportwomen..
How do we change this? We start by creating environments where men can speak honestly without being mocked. When society stops ridiculing male vulnerability, men will finally have permission to show care openly—just like women do. And when that happens, “men support men” could become more than a rare hashtag; it could become a normal, healthy culture where men uplift each other instead of competing for strength.
Men deserve support too. They just need the space to show it
#womensupportwomen #mensupportmen #hastag
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